The Realities of a Stay-At-Home Dad

In the past, you might have gotten some laughs if you told people that you’re a stay-at-home dad, but more and more fathers are appearing to their child’s parent meetings and picking them up from school. However, it’s nothing to be ashamed of and there are many reasons for becoming a stay-at-home dad instead of the mother taking on that role. Social stereotypes around parenting are starting to fade away—and with good reason. The wage gap between men and women is starting to shrink and there are more opportunities now for a father to stay at home with their children.

But what are the realities surrounding the role of a stay-at-home dad? Is it really that easy, or are there some problems that you might encounter if you are considering it? Here are a couple of pointers to think about.
Your Children Don’t Mind Either Way

Many people have this stereotype that mothers are the ones that should be looking after their children. However, to your child, it really doesn’t matter. Whether they spend time with mommy or daddy, they are fine with the decision you make and it really shouldn’t affect who should give up their career or take time off their job just to look after their child.

Dads Can Do (Most) Of What Moms Can Do

Aside from obvious things such as breastfeeding, fathers can do everything that mothers can do. In fact, due to some handy DIY knowledge that the father may have picked up in his earlier years, a stay-at-home dad might be even more resourceful when it comes to fixing baby toys and cots or teaching their adolescent children things about life or helping with homework. Changing diapers and cooking food? No problem. Cleaning? Easy. Grocery shopping? Sorted!

Paternity Leave is Useful

Fathers have the option of work leave just like how mothers have maternity leave. Ellis Whittam's blog post will explain most of what you need to know, but in short, fathers are eligible for one or two weeks of paternity leave for the purposes of taking care of their child. However, it has to be taken in a consecutive period and it must happen within 56 days of the child’s birth.
Dads Know Fun Things To Do

Moms typically focus on looking after their child, going for walks and taking it easy when they look after children. Dads, however, like to engage their children in fun activities. During half term breaks, it’s not unlikely for a father to take their child out to the park, beach, or to go visit their friends and meet up for a party.

Old Stereotypes Die Hard

If someone sees you pushing a pram down the high street with a bunch of grocery bags and your child sleeping, then you’re going to get a few people pointing fingers and calling you names. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a father taking care of their child, and to many people, it is even inspirational because of the amount of dedication and hard work it takes to raise a child. Ignore these people and proudly continue what you’re doing.